“Really? You waited?? Why?” Well, I waited because I wanted a full connection with him.  I wanted to have sex with him alone.

I waited until my wedding this Spring to have sex and so did my husband. YES, it was worth it.  NO, I am not some weirdo. We were both fairly popular in school; both played varsity level sports and were involved with the arts programs as well.  NO, I am not some strictly traditional person. I live the life of a twenty-some-year-old. (You thought, I was going to give you my exact age, didn’t you?)  AND, I think we are pretty good looking…at least, average. 🙂 🙂

So, why did I wait?  Well, I wanted to have that connection with my husband and him only.  We are one now, and I’ve gotten to bond with him so much in the last month or so. IT IS AWESOME!! To get all scientific on you, you bond mentally with every person you have sex with.  During sex, your body lets off oxytocin that makes you connect. You are literally becoming one with the other person.

I also waited because only ONE person deserves me and I him. Now I know I sound really self-absorbed, but really why give myself to any and everyone?  I, AND YOU, are a treasure, and only one person is getting me to treasure. (Oh and bonus… no worrying about an unexpected pregnancy or STD.)

You’re right…it was a little weird on our honeymoon. We did not know what to expect. BUT we were weird and curious together. We got to learn together. We got to experiment together. There were no expectations of the other and no preconceived notions. It was all new and exciting.

And guess what.  Because we waited, our families and friends know and it was okay.  It was even good!! They were celebrating that we were one! We were not hiding. We were not ashamed. We were not guilty. We WERE totally free to please one another.

Now, I know what you are thinking… “I have already had sex. So that is not an option for me.  I missed out on that.”  NO! You can still make it special for the perfect one at the perfect time.  You can choose to wait for them now. You can be abstinent for them now.

How awesome would it be to get to tell them on your wedding night, “I chose to be abstinent for you when I learned of the wonderful connection we can have”???? “I chose to wait for you because I know how special you would be.  I chose to be yours alone from that date forward.”

I think that would be pretty amazing.